Making Matriarchs
Welcome to Making Matriarchs!
This is a space dedicated to challenge outdated systems, embrace your unique power, and help build a new world rooted in balance, community, and love. Hosted by Kait—a mother, recovering people-pleaser spiritualist, and passionate advocate for change—this podcast is a call to action for anyone ready to rewrite the narrative and co-create a better future.
The root of many societal problems lies in patriarchy, internalized misogyny, and systems designed to divide and devalue. But here, we’re focused on solutions—rebalancing power toward the Divine Feminine, fostering connection, and creating vibrant, supportive communities. Each episode features candid conversations with inspiring women and changemakers who are uplifting their communities, challenging the status quo, and building something new.
You’ll uncover tools and insights to release limiting beliefs, navigate grief and growth, and step boldly into the power that’s been within you all along. From personal development to systemic change, Making Matriarchs is a transformative journey that empowers you to embrace your gifts and inspire others to rise with you.
Whether you’re exploring how to overcome societal conditioning, amplify your voice, or reconnect with your innate creativity and intuition, this podcast offers practical advice and meaningful conversations to guide your journey.
If you’re ready to challenge the beliefs and systems that no longer serve us, co-create a world that reflects balance and the Divine Feminine, and rise into your full potential, you’re in the right place. Join Kait and a growing community of visionaries as we learn, grow, and rise together.
Let’s build something extraordinary—because when we rise, we inspire others to do the same.
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"We the People" Deserve Better - Let's Heal Our Abusive Relationship
The episode addresses the interconnection between our personal healing and the collective struggles in a politically charged climate.
- Let's acknowledge the heaviness of recent political events and a leader that attempts to divide us (recorded 2/1/25)
- Recognize when your nervous system is activated. Get out of survival brain and reaction and into strategic / creative response
- Understand we have deep wounds as a nation that need to be healed
- A reminder that we should ALL be trying to bring Heaven to Earth
- Be sure to take aligned actions with your values
In a society that thinks love, generosity, and vulnerability is a weakness, demonstrate it's a strength. In an empire that relies on lies, get comfortable by using your God-given discernment and get comfortable in your own truth. In an empire that relies on separation and division and using labels as a way to scapegoat, get curious and get into community.
Your energy is your life force. Be sure to make sure you know where your energy is flowing and where you want it to go. Follow your passion and fire.
Don't be afraid to start small. Don't be afraid to start and not be 100% right. Certainly look for other people that are doing something that you are interested in. Get in collective discussions with each other and community with each other. When we do that, we have a lot of power.
So in summary, though we have a president that you could say has fascist tendencies that may want to divide us for the benefit of the oligarchs, we do actually have power, even if they'd like to think that we don't. We do have power.
We also get to decide what type of world and country we live in, regardless of the president. So make America kind again.
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Hey, there, it's your kindred friend, kate, and welcome to Making Matriarchs. This is a space where we come together to challenge the systems and beliefs that no longer serve us, embrace our power and build a new earth rooted in balance, community and love. A little bit about me I'm a mother, a recovering people pleaser, spiritualist, and someone who's learned through grief, growth and a whole lot of learning. Harmful beliefs and systems, whether in our society, our own families, government, religion or even within ourselves, hold us back, but I believe we have the courage and creativity to rise above them together. Here on Making Matriarchs, we'll talk to women and change makers who are uplifting their communities and creating something new. We'll let go of limiting beliefs, explore what's possible and step boldly into the power that's been within each of us all along. So if you're ready to embrace your gifts, challenge the status quo and help create a world that reflects the divine feminine, you're in the right place. Let's dive in and learn and rise together.
Speaker 1:This is a solo episode today, after about two weeks into the new administration's presidency. I want to start out by saying it's been a heavy week. I think it's been a heavy week for a lot of people. It's been a heavy week for me, and I myself don't have that many marginalized identities. Some of us are dealing with a potential job loss or a job that has been lost, maybe a grandmother who's been living here for 20 years and is now getting deported, or a grandpa who is a veteran, or maybe your existence is attempting to be denied. I am doing an episode today with some reflections based on my own opinions and for legal purposes. Please consider this podcast for entertainment purposes only.
Speaker 1:I want to start out by saying I have a lot of Trump voters in my life, especially in my family. I know that some people's reaction to me speaking out or questioning things will be to not make this political. First of all, everything is political. Political isn't inherently bad. I think what people mean is let's have basic human dignity, especially in times when we need to come together and not make things partisan, and I agree. I do have an observation, though, that it would seem like some of the people that are saying this voted for an administration that makes everything political. Mostly everything, including a tragedy that happened on this administration's watch, is now somehow political. When people say this, I think sometimes they mean I am not comfortable with my worldview being questioned or challenged. I am still in some conversations with people that posted a meme after the election about coming together in unity, found it interesting that the people that posted this meme that I've talked to voted for a leader that has in the past and seems to continue to actively sow division.
Speaker 1:I realize that true peace isn't the lack of discourse or denying ourselves to become more palatable to others, but the presence of love and freedom. I believe that we need each other as humans and we've become so disconnected in our own individual heads and echo chambers that we've forgotten that we are all connected. If you know me, you might know I've always been on a path of improvement for as long as I can remember. I think where I've learned the most is within relationships. I believe relationships are a mirror for you to know yourself better and to grow. It's a good opportunity. I believe we're here to have a human experience with other image bearers of God. We're having our own individual experience. We have no idea what it's like to truly walk someone else's path, but we are called to love each other and we have blind spots, so sometimes it's important to call someone in relationships can be an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and to grow.
Speaker 1:The challenge is we aren't in true community with each other. I do want to say that unfortunately, there are people out there that their physical safety is threatened. I know that I myself need to learn more discernment and awareness of when my nervous system is being activated over something that may or may not be a true physical threat, because it's really important for, when possible, us to get out of our survival brain, because when we're in our survival brain, we're only thinking of the immediate reaction, we're not thinking of the most strategic response and we're not in our creativity. We let our survival brain tell us that if there's a threat, if someone doesn't exactly agree with us on everything, that we think that's a threat and so, because of that, we only associate with those people that agree with us on everything. Let's get more into my insights for relationships. So again, this could be insight that you might be able to apply in a relationship or thinking about relationships that we have with our leaders. I've learned that a relationship and the types of leaders that we're voting for, I've learned that a relationship can be the level of respect and love that you think you deserve.
Speaker 1:I've always been a spiritually and politically oriented person. I studied political science, took gender and sociology courses. I've been religious as long as I can remember, as a small child, but in earlier years I was very triggered by the ego of Trump. Now I am much more interested in figuring out why we don't love ourselves enough to demand and expect better treatment. I have also come to believe that if we had less patriarchy and toxic masculinity plaguing a lot of our systems, that there would be more balance. But that's not what we have right now and I've learned that even someone that has a marginalized identity, they could still take on the belief structure of the system of oppression, because that's the dominant belief structure. So that's basically what we're programmed with. So we have to be aware of this programming and then actively choose something different, which is possible, but it's just. First you have to have that awareness and you have to have that understanding and you have to have that lens and you can move forward.
Speaker 1:People say that they believe our God is mighty, but they feel the need to define and press upon their version of God and make sure that their version of God or their church's version of God is mandated on to others. By the way, I do personally believe that God can take broken things and make them whole, but we have to actively put God in control. We have free will, so we have to actively actually put God in control and I don't think we're doing this enough, even the people that say that they are. I think we all need to do this more. We should be actively trying to bring heaven to earth and we're not doing that. A lot of us aren't.
Speaker 1:It's like, as a nation, we're in this abusive relationship with a narcissist and somehow we've justified this abusive behavior as being okay. We haven't healed, we don't love ourselves enough, we have shame and judgment pushed so far down. We are denying that it exists, and the relationship that we've picked reflects this uglier than ever before. If you've ever been in an abusive relationship, you might relate to the middle gray area of when you're starting to see things a little bit differently and thinking, oh, this isn't quite right. But then there's this part of you that you're pushing everything down and you're not just accepting the abuse, you're spreading every lie. You're almost um, you're almost defending it. In a way, you become your own abuser and actively defend what should never be defended, and I think that's what's going on in our country. We're in this middle, really messy, gray area where some of us are very unconscious to the leaders that we're picking, because there's a deeper, uglier truth that our country has that has not been healed and so, unfortunately, it's coming up uglier than ever before. But I do believe we can move forward and I do believe we can heal.
Speaker 1:On this show I will try not to gaslight you. I don't think we should gaslight ourselves, right. So something to think of when some things here to think about when you're thinking about a relationship or you're in a relationship, or things that maybe you should think about when you look at a leader. I would say be very weary of the wolf that acts like a sheep, so the perpetrator acting like the victim. Be weary of the one that is in charge does have the power, but deflects does have the power, but deflects, distracts, blames, divides. Be weary of the one that lies and gaslights you. It's or other people, it's your reaction. That's the problem. Be weary of the powerful that scapegoat the marginalized to get more power. They benefit from oppression, they benefit from the division, they benefit from blaming someone else for your problems so that you're distracted and you can blame them and see that as the problem, while they remain in control, doing nothing to make things better for all of us. Someone agreeing or disagreeing with you has nothing to say about your truth.
Speaker 1:I realize when people project so much myself included onto their unhealed wounds, onto you, it's a lot easier to not take things personally. When you understand this, when you understand that we each have unhealed wounds and we have unhealed wounds as a nation, it's easier to understand what's going on. I will say part of this process. So what's the solution? Seeing this game clearly and no longer playing, realizing you're in a pattern, sidestepping it and charting a different path. You dig deep, not just to no longer judge and self-abandon, but for true self-love and expression. You trust yourself enough to enforce the boundaries that are crossed in the future. Acknowledge but get out of a stress response. Take sacred rest when necessary and needed and get into heart and spirit-led action. Also, be aware of what you're consuming. We all have conditioning. We all have things put upon us. We all have conditioning. We all have things put upon us and be aware or tune in and give them, you know, views or what have you.
Speaker 1:I do like to read written independent news sources as much as I can and I like to, as we talked about about, follow the actions. Not just the swirl, not just the propaganda or how the media is covering it, but following what are the actions, what are the impacts, and um doing that everything that I can, um for the things that are important to me. So dig deep, find love, be love In a society that thinks love, generosity and vulnerability is a weakness. Demonstrate it's a strength In an empire that relies on lies. Get comfortable by using your God-given discernment and get comfortable in your own truth In an empire that relies on separation and division and using labels as a way to scapegoat. Get curious and get into community. Your energy is your life force. Be sure to make sure you know where your energy is flowing and where you want it to go. Follow your passion and fire.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying don't feel your feelings. You should feel your feelings, you should follow them. You should follow what are the things that I cannot accept right now? What are the things that within my own life I want to change, or within someone else's life I want to change? Or where can I serve life I want to change, or where can I serve?
Speaker 1:So, getting curious on how you're feeling and what you're experiencing and where your heart is going is really great, because that helps you start to experiment with the gifts that are given to you and how you can serve and make an impact somewhere else. So don't shy away from your feelings. Get really comfortable with them, get really curious and don't be afraid to start small. Don't be afraid to start and not be 100% right. Certainly look for other people that are doing something that you are interested in. Look to see if there's an existing organization that perhaps you can support, because you don't need to double you know we don't need to double efforts on things but I think it's really important for us to be in collective discussions with each other, in community with each other. When we do that, we have a lot of power again. Follow your passion. Fire. Turn this into something you can create or somewhere you can serve. So take what life is giving you. Realize there's an opportunity, realizing you can alchemize your pain into your purpose.
Speaker 1:So, in summary, though we have a president that you could say has fascist tendencies, that may want to divide us for the benefit of the oligarchs, we do actually have power, even if they'd like to think that we don't. We do have power. We also get to decide what type of world and country we live in, regardless of the president the president. So make America kind again. By the way, I said kind, not nice. People pleasing won't get us out of this mess. It got us into this mess. Be sure to take aligned actions with your values.
Speaker 1:From the bottom of my heart, thank you for listening today. I hope there was something in this episode that served you. A big part of this work is for me to serve others and I'd like to serve you in community or individually. Please check the show notes to get on my email list. Also, can I ask you for a small favor, friend? Please leave a positive rating or review, subscribe or share it with someone who might want to hear it. Your support helps grow this community of matriarchs. If you have any private feedback or thoughts, I'd love to hear from you. Email me anytime at makingmatriarchs at gmailcom. Until next time, remember when we rise, we rise together. Stay boldly kind and keep making matriarch moves.